Is It Too Late To Save Your Relationship?

It is said that a marriage is not held together by chains but instead, hundreds of tiny threads tie it and it is sewn by the couple over years of married life. We observe many "disasters and masters" of married life but, the question behind all these should be how to discover the reasons why marriages make or break. What causes it to fail? What makes it succeed? What can make marriages a source of great meaning? It takes the hard work of both partners to make a marriage a success, since marriage is like a two-way street.



If you want to maintain the perfect marriage, you have to try your best. Regrettably, there are many married couples who drift apart after the initial excitement or the so-called honeymoon stage, the marriages grow stale mostly, and many couples end up in break up or divorce. This begins when the realities of life sink in. Priorities usually shift towards children and the home, financial and career responsibilities take center stage and more often, partners become neglected thus boredom of the marriage creeps in. A lot of couples wait for a long time before seeking counselling for marital problems. You should seek help long before everything is too late.



The problem is, couples tend to make excuses why they cannot. Lack of free time, no money, lack of energy. While there is no simple fix for all of these, if you would like to save your marriage, you need to at least try. Not only do you owe it to yourself, you owe it to your spouse aswell. Wouldn't it be easy to say, "make time", especially if you both have jobs, have children to take care of and so on. You have to be creative and take a step outside of your lives, even if it is just briefly. Money is never an easy fix, but happily, there are many ways to spend quality time with your spouse that doesn't cost any money. If you are both tired, it doesn't take a lot of energy to sit and talk over a coffee or a glass of wine. If one of you wants to have a bath, don't take yourself off alone in the bathroom, invite your spouse in. They could sit at the side of the bath, chat or scrub your back!



Triumph in marriage does not come purely by finding the right partner, but through being the right partner yourself; strive to be the person whom you wish to catch the attention of. Never expect your partner to be more than you are willing to be for yourself. Let your partner be, change yourself before you demand your partner to change themselves. Lastly, do things together, have activities that you both love and enjoy which could both fulfil you; savour every minute of being together.



In every marriage, one could expect to experience conflicts and misunderstanding from time to time but avoid conflicts that could make a relationship disposable. Discuss problems gently and without blame. Communicate always and discuss matters with maturity and compassion. Focus on the positives as a happy marriage needs to have a rich deposit of positivity. Remember, love is an important element of the relationship, love is what keeps marriages together during the hard times; love is something that you do, it should be a behaviour to show that you care, love beyond the words. A happy and successful marriage requires falling in love many times with the same person. Your spouse.